Don’t get Valentine blues

Published 12:00 am Sunday, February 14, 2016

Valentine’s Day has got to be one of the most divisive holidays ever created, at least the way we celebrate it here in the 21st century.

For as long as society will be driven by consumerism, Feb. 14 will always be a day marketed towards lovers. Significant others are expected to buy flowers and candy for their partners, go out to a fancy dinner and make the evening as romantic as possible.

Meanwhile, the single people are left wondering why no one loves them.

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Well not this year, folks. Not for me.

Admittedly it does leave one slightly bitter to have had a wonderful Valentine’s Day one year, then be left single the next. But, the holiday in general is something I’ve never really put too much emphasis on.

This year, my best friend in the whole world from North Carolina came to visit me for the Valentine’s weekend. She is also single, but taking it a little harder than I am.

We decided we would spend the entire weekend doing fun things rather than pine for relationships or dwell on broken hearts.

We celebrated our ‘Gal’entine’s Day with a screening of “Deadpool,” the newest Marvel movie, getting manicures and painting pottery. We got dressed up for no one but ourselves, had a nice dinner, drinks and went to a great concert.

We always have fun together, no matter what we do. It’s been that way since we met in the fourth grade. But I know even at the end of a fun weekend, she still feels sad.

It’s perfectly natural to want a partner to share everything with, especially when you’re our age and see your friends getting married and having children left and right.

I’ve been trying to tell her to love her singleness. I’ve found plenty of ways to do that myself.

I can make plans on a whim without having to consult anyone. I don’t have to make compromises on what to watch on Netflix or where to eat dinner. I can get to know as many people as I want without fear of someone being jealous. My toilet seat is always down. I save a ton of money.

Also, I have always been of the mindset that no other person can “complete me.” I have to do that on my own. I can be perfectly independent and I don’t need anyone to make me feel better about myself or worthy.

I wish she could see that too. But I know it’s easy to get swept up in the tide when, this time of year, it seems people are shoving their romances in your face.

For all the other singles out there, take time today and treat yourself to something special, because you are special. No man or woman can determine that for you.

Love yourself first and eventually, someone who deserves you will come along.

Happy Valentine’s Day.